For the past few weeks, my thoughts have been circling around "Why the good people?'" It always happens to those people with the most positive things to say about them. It happens to those with illness or sudden tragedy, those well respected with loving families, and those who have accidents or unfortunate circumstance. It's a question that many Christians and people of all religions just can't understand, " Why Me?" "Why Her?" "Why Him" "Why Them?" Sometimes it is the "Why" that has an open ended response that can lead in different directions.
We Hear the Response They are in a Better Place.....
This is the response that is complex and misunderstood for me and possibly others. What was wrong with the place they were in now if they were doing good here with us. The better place is a beautiful one, but what leads God to think they are ready for that place. Can't they just stay a little bit longer in this place with their presence shining and positively impacting those on the planet that God created. He wants us to be civil, obeying, and serving human beings. Being sure on one lifestyle that was dedicated to serving and giving. What higher purpose is she going to serve when she already is serving with those who need her? People who are living according to God should be given appropriate time to live out their serving commitment and lifetime.
"There time is up..."
Timing is everything in our lives and at any given second it could be our time. That is the wake up call we receive when a friend or relative or co-worker die, "That could have been me." This is absolutely something I believe in and connects with the "better place." God does have his own plan and knows when one's time is up, but I'm sure many would disagree with his timeline. It is many conversations with God to get to the acceptance that it is your time do die-if the choice was there in the first place. Time being up for those who don't even see it coming-it's not fair to take away the processing, self-reflecting, and preparing for death. These two beautiful women had no chance to prepare for their time in their separate deaths. "Time is Up." Move on from your past life and start a new one Or be involved in the lives of others in spirit and in distant love and affection. Still it feels unjust when someone with so much potential doesn't have a chance to maximize it on this earth. It just moves them to a "better place," which one must have faith is true.
What is My Hypothesis?
While I should turn to the bible for answers, I just think based off my own experience, theories, beliefs, ideas, and religious background. It is my belief that this "better place" involves a higher assignment. If these women with such great qualities, families, friends, work ethic, kindness, and giving qualities are taken from this earth. They will utilize those same qualities in another place. Those who are lost, confused, misguided, oppressed -they are still learning about themselves, their experiences and their place in the world. Those who have identified a passion and share it with the world while being an incredible person-God is recruiting those people to be on his team.
It's still something that most people will not fully understand and I don't either, but it's something to help clear my mind and heart from the hurt I am feeling with this loss. Also, the families, friends, and loved ones who are asking "Why?" over and over and over again in their heads. There is not just one "answer," but there is some religious reasoning behind it. and this is where "You Got This" comes in.
When one has questions about death, the best place to turn is the bible. As mentioned, that is not often where I turn rather experiential learning comes to my mind. I decided to ask my friend from church who always has an belief or thought when it comes to religion. He also experienced a few deaths all back to back and it was difficult to get through, but eventually moved to the acceptance phase. He thought about "Why" this happened and he felt relief and a sense of security knowing that God was in control of their lives now and he was going to take care of them. "God- You Got this." It's liberating to let go and accept that they are in that "better place." Any place closer to God is a better place because they are in the presence of the most beautiful existence.
Death is an awful tragedy and rarely do people just go straight to the stage five of "Acceptance" because they are meant to go through them all: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance.. It's beneficial to go through those stages learn about yourself, how to cope, ask questions, going over the "if" and the "why", and then finding a peace and level of acceptance. This happened for a reason outside of your control and the best part is that "You Don't have to worry about Jill" because "God's got this." When the acceptance is reached, a person doesn't have to worry and wonder because "God's Got This." He will take care of the loved one above and he will guide you in the right direction when you believe. It's important to remember that blessings can come from tragedy. The person will never ever be forgotten, but they can release that worry knowing that
"God's Got This."