"My alone feels so good, I will only have you if you are sweeter than my solitude."
"My fairytale has absolutely changed. I don't need a prince charming to have my own happy ending"
"To be left alone is one of the most precious things one can ask of the modern world."
"I don't like being labeled as lonely just because I'm alone."
"Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self."
We have come to a time of "technology overload." The social networking revolution has made it's attempts to compete with my passionate principles about psychology, but it lost. I came to my senses and have disappeared for three years with random guest appearances to the comfortable home of my many friends and followers. The world continues it's love affair with tweets, tumbles, faces, and books. The writing world, especially publishers, encourage you to get on social networking and promote yourself. If you have a business, promote your services. When you want to share that significant, intimate piece of your life, face book is your space to do it.
While technology provides a space, it also creates a platform. A platform to bring attention to ourselves in the best ways, the worst ways, or the neutral ways. It's always available as a platform to meet new people, tag more friends, select more "likes", and have a supporter from close and afar. It is the platform that people respond to with by having followers and being a "socialite" in your own right and space. We have a platform available to reach our "success." The amazing qualities are proven in the tech world, but what happened to our own "organic platform?"
Our own "organic platform" stems from the flowers that are blossoming within ourselves. We have our own personality traits, strengths, and abilities that can be shared interpersonally. It's not about having a thousand friends and having twenty who truly understand your passion behind your business. It's not about the number of friends to indicate you have a successful book. It's about utilizing what we already know and promoting ourselves. Book signings, conventions for a small business, home gatherings to promote a new product, or giving out free DVDs, products, brochures. We can't underestimate how resourceful, persistent, and eager we are when we are sharing our passion.
A social platform does not have to be in cyber world to show everyone that "You've arrived." It needs to be in the place it has been all this time-in your heart and in your own human actions and behavior. You have the potential to build your own platform "successfully" with that definition being created by you. The cyber world has it's amazing benefits, but it doesn't have to make you shine by numbers. Lets yourself shine with real people and your real self-not the outside noise that tells you to follow what everyone is doing. Use social media if you like, but make sure to place your organic platform in first place.
Can you stand tall without your social networking platform?
You can and you will and you shall..... PCR
Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor has one of the most famous ted talks:
She is a researcher of the Brain at Harvard University who shares her personal story and education with the brain. When you watch her video, your mind is transported to thinking about your brain and how it functions. Even if you don't have interest in the learning all the details about the brain, she makes you interested for twenty minutes to an hour.
Dr. Jill had been studying the brain as a passion and career. She especially was interested in studying Schizophrenia as her brother is diagnosed. It was her own stroke that changed her life at age 37 that resulted in having to relearn everything she knew i.e. how to write, read, speak, eat, talk, and walk. She called herself "an infant in a woman's body." It took her approximately 7 YEARS for her brain to recover back to it's normal state.
When you can study the brain and then sit and analyze, experience, observe your brain fall apart-it turns out to be a fascinating experience of learning and as Jill titled her book "A Stroke of Insight."
At NAMI, Jill briefly shared her incident and passionately moved onto the brain. The Amygdala vs. the Hippocampus, Right Brain vs. Left Brain, Addiction, Neurocircuitry, and various feeling states/messages sent to the brain.
An important overview of the brain from Dr. Jill:
Left Brain Right Brain
Serial Processor Parallel Processor
Black Vs. White Nonverbal
Thinks in Language/Details Thinks in Pictures
Competetive Present Moment
Confrontational Hollistic thinking
Sense of Urgency Compassionate
Critical analysis Non-confrontational
Right vs. Wrong Contentment/Energy in Flow
Do you feel more connected to one side over another? Or Both?
Dr. Jill says, "The left brain is dominating society. We need more right brain!"
Teenage behavior expected: No Frontal Lobe-Can't plan ahead-High Impulse Control, and Do not Understand Consequences. Brain Not Fully Developed until Age 25
Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is a true inspiration with an uplifting spirit and charisma towards starting life over and being insightful into the human mind and behavior. She lost it all, but it came back to her ten fold and she is using this experience to make a difference.
She is on my Top 100 and the deserves a spot on the Most Influential of Time Magazine.
Definitely fun feeling the energy of the place where Classical Revolution all began-San Francisco Mission district-great neighborhood, great music, and great restaurants.
Priscilla CL Raj is a Therapist, Missionary, Writer, English Teacher. She is an enthusiast who is passionately purposeful in her life.